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S1rmunchalot
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Last active: 6 months ago

59 Liverpool, Merseyside, United Kingdom

Male / Divorced / ID: 1350079

Seeking Female 40 - 58 For: Penpal, Friendship, Romance / Dating

Last active: 6 months ago

Overview

S1rmunchalot

He's Looking For

Education:

Vocational College
Any

Have children:

Yes - don't live at home
Any

Drink:

Occasionally drink
Occasionally drink

Smoke:

Don't smoke
Don't smoke

Religion:

No religion
Other,Bahá'í,Buddhist,Hindu,Jainism,Shintoism,Taoism,Parsi,No religion

Occupation:

Retired
Any

Member Overview

Let's start with the basics and we can talk more later if you like what you read...s1rmunchalot is the name I use on line, it's not my real name. I have two addictions: Coffee and MY WOMAN! I love to find new places that have really good coffee. That's enough of that sort of perverted talk! We...
Let's start with the basics and we can talk more later if you like what you read...s1rmunchalot is the name I use on line, it's not my real name. I have two addictions: Coffee and MY WOMAN! I love to find new places that have really good coffee. That's enough of that sort of perverted talk! We can discuss it later ;) I would love to find a woman who wants me to be her only drinker - to be the only man who is addicted to drinking his woman in: Gazing enraptured in her magnificence, touching her, smelling her, tasting her, even more often that he needs coffee. Could you cope with being my addiction? If you are a woman who insists she is 'simple' then you need another type of man, not me. On the surface I am like a swan, unruffled, serene and graceful, underneath a mass of activity and wild imagination. I would best describe myself as a typically English gentleman and former dedicated public servant, I am NOT a typical English/Western tourist who likes to hang around bars, I do not wish discuss the price of beer endlessly between talking about sport. I do not wish to recapture my drunken teenage years. I dislike rudeness, drunkenness or big loud egos. I do not need alcohol to be outgoing and cheerful. Strength comes from a calm quiet approach. I value patience, courtesy, respect, faithfulness, honesty, sincerity and above all truthfulness even in the face of rejection or disadvantage. I would simply walk away from people who fail to display those qualities. If you think it is OK to lie about anything, we have nothing to talk about. I would describe myself as fearless in this regard, I am not so afraid of loss that I would stay in an unhappy situation. If I walked away it was because I see no future in my inability to make someone truly happy, you cannot lie to someone and be truly happy. I do not need to adopt a granny who cannot walk 2km, dance for five minutes or swim in the sea. If you need a nursing home I can recommend a few places. I do not need a house cat who only wants to live at the same address and comes to me only when she needs attention or food. If you truly dislike the way you look to the outside world, that is not my problem to fix, it is yours. I will not go into an autopsy about why a relationship failed, I will simply let you know that it has. I have no intention to destroy a woman's belief in herself even if she is not the right one for me, she may perfect for someone else. I have spent 30 years as a Registered Nurse caring for others. I value very highly that same caring nature in other people. I am not easily fooled. I have had my hard lessons and have learned from them. I have worked with people who have drug and alcohol addiction for many years. It's unlikely someone would be able to fool me with anything new. I would take any attempt to fool me to be a sign of disrespect for me and it doesn't matter how many months we have been 'dating' such disrespect would end my interest in woman. Please don't send me pictures that are old or that you have used a phone app to change, I know what normal eyes look like, I don't particularly like cartoonishly big eyes. You may have had to kiss a lot of frogs in the hope of finding your prince, but I am not a frog, I don't have a big beer belly nor do I want to drunkenly hop from lily pad to lily pad. I want to find the one woman who works as hard to understand her man and make him as happy as I would move the whole Earth to make her happy. If I have made the effort to come half way around the world to see you, I would not appreciate it if a woman spends most of the time looking at a phone screen. If you are not interested in finding out about a man from another culture, then why bother with such a man? I don't want to be the choice you make just because you feel you have no other choices. I am patient - that is not boastful - I was a registered nurse. I'm a good listener. I prefer to listen. I am happiest when the person I care most about wants to talk to me about what is on their mind, Ii am unhappy when the one I love has nothing to say to me. If you're the happy talkative type we'll get on well. I would rather show kindness than control but make no mistake I am the master in the relationship. I tend to attract women who like to call a man 'Daddy'  because that is what I do well. I am calm and forgiving in nature but if you deserve a smack on the bottom then it will happen, and you will get a cuddle afterward. I'm not the type to want revenge because I might feel hurt. I am not perfect, I may make mistakes or misunderstand sometimes. I am not the solution to all your problems, but I can be a support to you when you need help to solve your own difficulties. I have an active imagination, I am constantly curious about the world and the people in it. I enjoy solving problems, I like to try to understand people and why they make the choices that they make. I am committed atheist, I don't believe in mythical sky beings just because it is written in some old book and I NEVER WILL but if I choose you then YOU will be my goddess and I really enjoy making MY goddess feel loved. Every minute of every day, it's time to worship the goddess. I speak my mind without needing to hurt or impress others - it doesn't mean I always think that I am right, just that I have an opinion if I have taken the time to find out about a thing, If I don't know anything about a subject - I will say so. I like it when someone challenges me intellectually. I would look for someone who can do the same, someone who knows the difference between a good discussion and a fight. Someone who knows how to agree to disagree but values and respects the opinions of others. I am a good communicator, who uses my communication skills for the happiness and benefit of others. I cannot relate to those who do not try to communicate in this way. If you are the 'hurt silent type' who thinks a man should be able to read your mind - we will not get on at all. Again, I have no religion but would respect those who do as long as they didn't try to push me into theirs - if you think you can do it subtly and I wouldn't notice - you're wrong. I do not wish to visit a new temple every time I go out somewhere for the day. Please take my word for it, you will never make me a believer. If religion takes priority for you over other peoples freedom and happiness, we will not get on very well at all. I value friendship more than social excitement. Relationships are built on trust, building takes time and effort, a will to succeed. I much prefer sensuality, intimacy and playfulness to naked sex if you like a man to pound you into the bed every time he has had a few beers then snore all night like a beached whale afterward while you read the names of his ex-girlfriends from his tattoos - that is definitely not me. Make no mistake if your answer to every suggestion about let's find a new way to play together is "Oh, no! I couldn't do that!" Then we have nothing in common. If I am showing that I think of you every minute of every day and you find that too embarrassing to consider, we have nothing in common. Intimacy requires deep trust and communication. I truly prefer to give pleasure than receive but I will only take what is freely given with genuine affection and desire. I never demand anything, but I will notice if nothing is ever offered. I find too often that there are women do to each man the same thing they always do to each man, and don't have the confidence to ask 'What do you like, how do you like it?' Or even worse, when she IS told what her man likes, she doesn't listen. I know the difference between fantasy and reality, and sharing a fantasy is good and fun. Sharing things you would never share with anyone else brings a man and a woman closer together. I am never jealous of a woman's history or her fantasies. Talking about something doesn't mean I (or we) expect it to happen. I do have a completely open mind on the subject of adult relationships, too often I read in these ladies dating profiles "I am open minded" but what does that mean? If you ask "how openminded?" and they cannot express themselves, this is not a good basis to begin communication. If I make a joke it doesn't mean I'm secretly 'sending signals'. Most of the women that I have had contact with are always surprised that I really like to go clothes shopping with them, and yet some women seem to find this embarrassing when a man does this. If you care more about what others think than what makes life fun and good to share with the one you love, then again, we don't really have anything in common because my woman's happiness is more important than anyone elses opinion, and I want her to know that I am interested in everything about her - including her bra size and shoe size. Please understand, westerners have a different view of adult relationships than in the East. If you are not interested in learning about those differences then perhaps ask yourself why look for westerners at all? I understand the reason why most women say 'no s** talk' because there are bad men out there, however if you wish to talk marriage plans you really should be willing to talk about the subject of sex in an adult manner once you have established basic trust. If talking about sex makes you embarrassed or makes you go silent, we wouldn't get on well in the place where we would plan to spend about a third of the rest of our lives together. Women are wary of being playful and teasing men because they think the man will embarrass them or demand and expect more. I do not. I like being teased but mostly I like to see a woman have the confidence to express herself in her own time, in her own way. If she doesn't want to flirt with me, I'll notice and assume she is just not interested in me, I would not be upset, but I would not plan a life with someone who is not interested in me at all. Unless a woman tells me directly that she wants something from me I would always assume she's just having a little fun and being friendly. I actually like to go slow and laugh about it, if you can joke with me we will get on very well. If sex is your work, or has been in the past, I do not judge how you make your living or what you needed to do to survive - but I am NOT your work and never expect to be. I will not judge you at all on your past, there is no need to lie to me about it if you have things you prefer not to discuss, then don't, and don't feel guilty about it or worry that I might find out because even if I did find out, I wouldn't judge you or change my attitude toward you. I simply wouldn't be interested in that type of pay to play interaction. I would never pay for sex - not because I have a moral objection to it but because I cannot be interested (literally!) in a woman who is not truly interested in sharing herself with me openly and freely. What turns me on is knowing that I am wanted, I am not driven by what I want all the time. I would want to please the woman and it wouldn't please me to think she faking being pleased in order to make me feel she has earned the money, so what would be the point? I cannot ignore other motives or faked affection, if I know you need something other than my affections then get it elsewhere. I might be interested in the person underneath, please don't be scared of rejection by telling the truth. I really don't care about your past before me. I am also not interested in those who see other human beings as 'business', to be used solely for personal gain. I do not particularly like or get on well with judgmental people. Having said all of that you may be surprised to find that I also do not care if you like both men and women. I do not consider another woman as competition to me, I am a man, she is simply different and if you need that 'difference' occasionally, as well as a man - no problem. But if it is obvious that you prefer to share everything with one particular woman then she is the one you should be with - not me. I love children, but more than that I understand another persons' child is the most precious thing in the world to them. I would never try to replace a father and I understand how a child might feel to see their mother with a different man. I would never intentionally hurt a child and I detest with a passion those who abuse children's trust. I may or may not want children with a new partner, however if you already have children I would base my decision regarding having any more children upon the relationship you have with them. I have no outdated views on gender specific roles. I believe the happiest times come when sharing the simplest tasks as a partnership - if you are the type of woman who thinks cooking and cleaning is only woman's work and not to be shared in fun then we likely wouldn't be happy living together. If you think a man should leave you to do the washing of the dishes and not come to find you, giving you kisses and cuddles while we do it together - you need another man, not me. I can cook as well as any woman I know, and I enjoy doing it. I am not man who needs a housemaid to watch her work (Unless you plan to dress up as a special treat for me while you 'clean house'!). I do not need a trophy wife, I prefer not to make public displays of ownership or affection, however I do like letting everyone in the world know that I have found my queen and I would rather she walk in front of me where I can gaze upon her magnificent beauty every second that I possibly can. I like to have fun. I like to travel and explore. I'm interested in different cultures and their history. I would describe myself as fit and active, but not 'sporty'. I have no competitive instinct. I think I have a good sense of humour, if a little different than the usual since I like humour coupled with a good imagination and an understanding of the world. I am interested in science, travel, history and most things to do with computers and multi-media. I like music and I love to sing and dance, but I don't like overly loud music or dark crowded places full of drunken sweating bodies. I drink alcohol rarely, never in a crowd, and would never be interested in drugs AT ALL since I always prefer to remain in complete control of myself around those I may not trust or who may need my help. I do not like to see a woman falling down drunk AT ALL! I prefer a good intimate restaurant and good conversation to bars and loud 'nightlife', but I do like to go and dance occasionally. I expect my goddess to dance with me in private too, if you can only dress up to go out and not dress to impress your man at home I will not understand why you only have a need to show your best self to strangers outside. I would rather go for a walk on a deserted beach with my partner and best friend than have a crowd of half naked people screaming around me. When choosing clothes for myself, I prefer smart attire rather than casual. I like to present myself well and I really like it when my woman takes an interest in how I look. I dress to please her before anyone else and if it pleases her to see me dressed as Thor or Batman that is what she gets! - However I am not overly impressed by those obsessed with their self image, you won't see me dye my hair or try to hide a bald spot. I don't want or need a supermodel, or a diva, in my life. It is an old cliché I know, but I truly believe beauty is within. Please don't send me old photos or images that you have changed with software to hide how you look. I prefer darker skin, dark eyes and long shiny black hair. I do not like tattoos at all and I prefer not to see hair dyed a different colour. Nature knows your natural beauty colour scheme the best in my view. If you change the 'selfie' images that you send I would realise you were being dishonest as soon as I see you in real time, and that is not a good start is it? Initially I'm looking to learn about you. If trust between us is built up, friendship would naturally follow. If the friendship is deep enough then I am happy to go where it leads. A really good friend would know, I would move heaven and Earth to make them happy if I could, even if they are not my chosen life partner. I am looking forward to talking with my future goddess, please don't take too long!
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If I don't answer a message it's because of what you have put in your profile. Any mention of 'God' will not get a response from me, if it's so important to you that you include it in your profile - marry him. If it wasn't clear from the above: No s**talk unless we get to know one another really...
If I don't answer a message it's because of what you have put in your profile. Any mention of 'God' will not get a response from me, if it's so important to you that you include it in your profile - marry him. If it wasn't clear from the above: No s**talk unless we get to know one another really, really well and don't send me pictures. No pay to play, I would never pay for s** - EVER. I don't mind talking about the subject if you have questions a health professional can answer. No trying to take me as a fool, I don't send money to people I have never met. I am not interested in lady-boys for an intimate relationship. Perhpas talking as friends is O as long as you understand that is all there would ever be - just friends. I'm also happy to let anyone practice their English language skills if they want that - Just say so.
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More About Me

S1rmunchalot

He's Looking For

Basic

Gender:
Verified
Male
Female
Age:
For privacy reasons, age is accurate to within 2 weeks
Verified
59
40 - 58
Lives in:
Liverpool, Merseyside, United Kingdom
Any
Relocate:
Willing to relocate to another country
Any

Appearance

Hair color:
Grey / White
Black
Eye color:
Blue
Any
Height:
5'8" (173 cm)
4'7" (140 cm) - 5'6" (168 cm)
Weight:
51 kg (112 lb)
No Answer - 51 kg (112 lb)
Body style:
Slim
Petite,Slim,Average,Athletic
Ethnicity:
Caucasian (White)
Any
Body art:
None
Piercing,Earrings,None
Appearance:
Average
Any

Lifestyle

Drink:
Occasionally drink
Occasionally drink
Smoke:
Don't smoke
Don't smoke
Marital Status:
Divorced
Any
Have children:
Yes - don't live at home
Any
Number of children:
1
Any
Oldest child:
Older than 18
Any
Youngest child:
No Answer
Any
Want (more) children:
Not Sure
Any
Have pets:
No Pets
Any
Occupation:
Retired
Any
Employment status:
Not Employed
Any
Annual income:
Prefer not to say
Any
Living situation:
Live Alone
Any

Background / Cultural Values

Nationality:
Verified
United Kingdom
Any
Education:
Vocational College
Any
Languages spoken:
English
Any
English ability:
Fluent
Fluent,Very Good,Good
Malay ability:
No Answer
Any
Religion:
No religion
Other,Bahá'í,Buddhist,Hindu,Jainism,Shintoism,Taoism,Parsi,No religion
Chinese sign:
No Answer
Any
Star sign:
Don't Know
Any

Hobbies & Interests

Entertainment:

Beach / Parks, Board / Card Games, Camping / Nature, Computers / Internet, Concerts / Live Music, Cooking / Food and Wine, Dancing, Dining Out, Dinner Parties, Education, Home Improvement, Karaoke / Sing-along, Music (Listening), Music (Playing), Movies / Cinema, News / Politics, Photography, Reading, Science and Technology, Shopping, Social Causes / Activism, Theatre, Traveling, TV: Educational / News, TV: Entertainment, Video / Online Games, Volunteering

Food:

Other, French, Middle Eastern, Barbecue, German, Seafood, Greek, Indian, South American, Italian, Chinese / Dim Sum, Japanese / Sushi, Continental, Thai, Deli, Korean, Eastern European, Mediterranean, Fast Food / Pizza, Mexican

Music:

Other, Alternative, Classical / Opera, New Age, Pop, Reggae, R'n'B / Hip Hop, Rock, Soft Rock, World

Sport:

Other, Diving, Figure Skating, Gymnastics, Ice Skating / Ice Hockey, Pool / Billards, Scuba Diving / Snorkeling, Swimming, Walking

More About Me

Humor:

I'm British - Cheeky irony is the best humour.

Travelled:

Europe, Eastern Europe and East Asia. i would like to visit South America and Canada, but I have no interest in visiting North America.

Cultural Adaption:

I have had partners from different cultures before, it is not an issue for me.

Romance:

Far away from any other person with a beach, and a sunset.

Personality:

Perceptive and keenly interested in people and what motivates them. I like to have fun particularly in private with the one I trust most in the world.

My Perfect Match is:

A deep thinker, who considers what she wants and how she plans to make it happen. Someone who cares more about giving than receiving, and is happiest giving themselves completely to the one they love and trust in order for her man to care for their needs.

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